Jesus and Peter Walk on Water (Matthew 14:22-32)
It’s a story you hear as a child if you grow up in church. It was stormy. The disciples were rocking back and forth in a boat. They look out and think they see a ghost, but it’s Jesus walking on the water. Peter yells, “If it’s really You Lord, tell me to come out to You.”
(Which by the way, I’ve always thought if I were Peter, I would’ve picked something entirely different to ask of Jesus by which to assure me it was really Him. Anyone – or any ghost or any alien – could’ve replied to him, “Sure Peter, come on out!”)
Please tell me I’m not the only one who’s ever been caught up for at least a minute by this one very insignificant thought about Peter in this story. 🙂
But back to the story:
Peter gets out of the boat, and finds that he too can now walk on water. But then he takes his eyes off of Jesus and lets doubt creep in, and he starts sinking fast. Jesus catches him, asks him why he has such little faith, they get in the boat, Jesus calms the storm and all is well.
The moral of the story is twofold: Don’t be afraid to get out of your boat (AKA, comfort zone) and when you get out, don’t take your eyes off of Jesus. Or more simply put – don’t fear, and don’t doubt.
And if we end it there, I would wholeheartedly agree that I need to hear this most important message over and over. I need to let it ring in my heart and mind each and every day.
Don’t fear. Get out of your comfort zone.
It’s still January. New Year’s Eve was a mere 25 days ago. I’m still wanting to raise my drink of choice – a mocha-chip milkshake – and festively shout, “Happy New Year!” and really mean it.
This past Sunday in the kids church where I serve, God used two kids to cleverly speak to me about happiness, and to put a full-length mirror in front of my soul.
The first messenger came to me with her friend during prayer time, right after worship.
“What would you like for us to pray about, Sweetie?” I asked.
Without hesitation, she answered, “I’d like a swimming pool, a trampoline, a new bed, some Barbies, clothes for them, another dog, and toys for him.”
A bit taken aback by her extensive list, I looked to make sure I wasn’t wearing a red and white suit, and that Rudolph wasn’t playing reindeer games in the background.
Before bowing my head and closing my eyes to pray, I conveniently noticed the speck of dust in one of her eyes. I turned up the sweet-tone volume coming out of my mouth to override the judgmental heart volume that I feared would escape through my ears or nose.
I prayed and said “Amen”, and as she and her friend returned to their seats, I felt the Holy Spirit whisper to me, “Your wants list is just as long.”
Right after that, it was time for the story, to be followed by ten minutes of small group activities, and the hour would be over.
As the storyteller began, another leader pointed out one of my favorite little guys to me. This boy steals my heart all the time, and at that moment, the poor guy had tears flowing down his cheeks.
Last week I gave three reasons why we sometimes say yes to things we should’ve said no to.
- We aren’t crystal clear on what we really want.
- We choose urgent over important. And,
- We slip into “auto-pilot mode”.
I invite you to check out last week’s post if you missed it.
This week, I want to bring into the light one more reason we sometimes say yes to things we should’ve said no to, along with some possible solutions.
It’s simply this: We want to be liked by certain people.
Are you a people pleaser?
I think a lot of us church people fall into this category. As a kids pastor who is constantly looking for more volunteers, I’ve had amazing people on my team over the years, and there have been a few of these amazing people who I knew simply could not say no to any request. I can spot them because I’ve been one of them, and I’ve tried really hard to not take advantage of their no-saying disability.
How do you really know when to say yes or to say no to opportunities to serve in your church, community, or family in light of God’s Word that tells us to think of others as better than yourselves, or to not look out only for your own interests, or to do to others whatever you would like them to do to you? (Philippians 2:3,4 and Matthew 7:12)
This might make us feel like we can never say no.
At least not to some people.
Some have said no to my invitation to serve, and quickly followed it up by saying they could never have said no to the lead pastor – that if he would’ve asked them the same thing, they would’ve …
“You need a plan, plan. Yes, you need a plan, pretty mama –
to stop sayin’ yes to all the wrong.
You need to hear some funky insight and…
pretty mama, I’m gonna help you make your plan.”
– Lyrics to the Newbie Doobie Brothers song, “You Need a Plan”
We say yes to a lot of things we should’ve said no to.
So why do we do that? Why do we say yes, when we should’ve said no?
I can think of a lot of hair and clothing styles I’ve had over the years that I should’ve never said yes to, but I’ll save that for another day.
Here are 3 reasons why we say yes when we should’ve said no.
In twenty-two years of marriage, my husband and I have changed locations seven times. The location changes were way more frequent in those early years. I can’t say I ever enjoyed the packing process, but my favorite part of heading to a new place was making the decision to get rid of stuff that was only there to slow us down.
The wedding bouquet petals my non-sentimental self got caught throwing out on year #5 weren’t really slowing us down, but that’s another story for another day.
I look at a new year like a new move. I want each year to be better than the one before, so in a sense, I want to move to a “new location” in the things that are most important to me.
In twenty years of research, Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck discovered that success, and how people respond to life’s challenges don’t depend upon their natural talents or I.Q., but on their mindset.
According to her, people either have a fixed mindset – where you are who you are and your talents and abilities never really change, or a growth mindset, where life is full of opportunities to learn, grow and succeed.